Here
I am on an early Sabbath walk down Mojonnier. (The photo above is not from Mojonnier, but it is one of my other favorite places, and it carries the mood of that day.) I’m back in College Place. Israel
lies behind and so does my 32 years of Adventist education leadership. I’m
ruminating on what lies ahead. John Deming’s brother told him to be ready for a
sobering discovery: “Once you retire you will find that people’s relationships
with you were based on you as a position, not as a person.” That seemed
intuitive to me, and here we are, John and I, both being decommissioned at the
same time. He will stay in a community that at least remembers what he has done,
but I will disappear from even that kind of public knowledge. What will be
left? Is even my own knowledge of me based on the positions I have held? What
will I see in me when I have no role to fill?
As
a child of the hippy generation I am no stranger to the quest to “find myself.”
I should be good at this, but how long will it take, and what tools are to be
used in discovering one’s “self?” If I begin by stripping away all the work requirements,
all the community’s expectations, all the Church’s assumptions of orthodoxy in doctrine
and lifestyle, then perhaps I can hear a more genuine voice of mine. Who am I
when all that is removed? What is the raw essence from which I am built? For
this moment I will even strip away the three remaining constants in my life: my
wife, my family, and my God. Yes, that naked. Who am I with no relationships at
all? Will this be a year-long journey of discovering the essential me?
Certainly
this writing is more quickly read than it was considered and written, but even
so, I was surprised at how fast I arrived at a working answer! There will not
be a year of discovery. After a relatively brief reflection I know the answer
to “Who am I?” The answer comes in two levels and one surrender. One level is
deeply disappointing, the other is more hopeful. And the surrender was surprisingly
quick and painless, and it left me with a far better question.
Level
One: Stripped of all expectations from work, community, Church, and family what
is left is appetite. Surprise. I have urges, desires, things I would like to
consume or collect. Quite really I want to eat what I want to eat. I want the power
to do whatever I want anytime I want. I want enough wealth to be untroubled by
shortage. I want to touch whatever my hand finds enjoyable. I want no worries,
no disease, no demands, no despair. I prefer ease, delight, and freedom from
consequence. In short, I want it to be “all about me.” I want to be the King of
Everything, and I want whatever does not please me to simply cease to exist.
This
is profoundly disappointing, because I know enough about reality to understand
that a life of unrestricted pleasure, ease, and power is unattainable. Even if
it were attainable it would not be sustainable. Furthermore, I have no
attraction to the narcissists who pursue these. But that’s who I am freed of
all responsibilities or expectations. Call it depravity. Call it original sin.
Level
Two: A totally self-centered life is ugly whether I see it in someone else or
in me. I know the universe cannot be composed of isolated and independent despots.
If it were composed of all consumers and no producers, it would end like a teeming
hospital nursery abandoned by medical staff and parents; a time of screaming, a
time of whimpering, then silence. I know that the highest fulfillment comes in
the give-and-take of conscious beings making a place for each other. On a level
deeper than desire, I look for meaning, for health, for sustainable life. Call
it a thirst for righteousness. Call it the image of God.
So
one answer to “Who am I if freed from all responsibility?” is, “A bottomless
pit of self-centeredness.” But another answer is, “A transcendent soul.” Which
is really “me?” How can I sneak around behind the various things I can desire in
order to catch that part of me that is doing the desiring? How can I see the
part of me that sees? It’s like trying to see the side of my eye in the mirror.
Whenever I stare into the mirror, I see only the familiar iris. When I roll my
eye to the side, I can no longer see any of it. (Note: for purposes of this
metaphor, no fair using two mirrors! Also note that philosophically I have not
been able to find that second mirror unless I rely on the theories or
theologies of others.)
A
Surprising Surrender: During a mercifully short rumination it occurred to me
that the best answer to “Who am I?” is “A mystery.” That suddenly provided familiar
ground, and it was easy for me to surrender the pursuit for a more explicit
answer. The ground is familiar because I have run into the same opacity in
trying to know the nature of God. He has revealed some things to us and kept
others to Himself. Trying to wedge our way into His most hidden and holy place
is to pursue our own insanity. People who “know the hidden mysteries of God”
are not to be trusted. Ditto if they claim to know the deep secrets of who I
am.
I
know what was revealed in the public life of Jesus, and like the wind I can
sense the moving of the Holy Spirit. But when it comes to plumbing the depths
of the great “I AM” I have to stop in reverence and simply accept that “HE IS.”
So, being made in His image I can know what is revealed in my physical acts, and
I can sense the stirrings of my spirit. But when it comes to plumbing the
depths of what I am, that knowledge is left to God. He has managed the sole
ownership of knowledge about Himself throughout eternity without my help. I
will trust Him to manage the speck of knowledge about the “true” me also without
my help. He designed me not to know Him on that deepest level. Perhaps I am also
designed not to know me as deeply as God does. That’s an easy surrender, an
easy freedom. Whew! Question dismissed.
A
Better Question: So what I really want to know is “What do I value?” What
things are most important to me? They are what will drive my choices. So, in
this coming year free of employers’ demands and free of constituents’ expectations
I will be attentive to what I most value. What are those things that under the
grace of God I most cherish? They will determine the steps I take in this walk.
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